Asked someone out for a first date, how long do I wait for an answer?
July 5, 2013 8:30 AM Subscribe
I'm totally rusty on this sort of thing, and so have no idea myself. I asked a woman out, and I haven't received a response yet. Should I keep expecting a response? When does her non-answer become my answer? (Snowflake details within.)
posted by Capt. Renault to human relations (24 answers total)
The particulars which may or may not be relevant:
-- we are both 30s, professionals in different fields
-- we live about an hour apart
-- my information that she is single is quite reliable
-- we met under circumstances which are unlikely to be repeated
-- we are not likely to run into each other in our day-to-day lives
-- there was something of a connection (though no fireworks or anything), and green lights throughout our time together
-- during our time togther, I was a good boy, and played it fun but somewhat reserved, given the company we found ourselves in
-- her name is common enough to be google-proof and facebook-proof
-- I do not have any of her personal contact information other than her work email address (which she supplied prior to our first meeting on an unrelated, not-work matter)
-- when we each got back from our first meeting, there was an exchange of emails regarding some minor work arrangements
-- at the end of that exchange, I asked her out by email, explicitly using the word "date"
-- I acknowledged in that email that me asking her out was a bit direct and a bit early, but that we were unlikely to meet each other again otherwise
-- I asked her out 24 hours ago, and have not heard anything since.
Now, I'm totally out of practice with dating, and don't really know what I'm doing. Granted, it wasn't the best way to ask her out, but I was left with very limited options, and I really like this woman, the little of her that I know. I genuinely thought there was something there, but I'm so rusty with this stuff, my Spideysense could be totally off. Who knows? It is possible that work commitments have kept her either from receiving my email or from responding to it, but I would think that unlikely.
So my question is this: what is a reasonable response time for being asked out by email these days? How much longer should I expect an answer, before switching over to the answer that her non-answer is my answer?
Thank you in advance, hivemind. I'm going batty refreshing my email every five minutes.