Abortion in the US (Canadian)
June 25, 2013 6:07 AM Subscribe
I am a Canadian in the states for the rest of the summer and I just found out I'm pregnant (Through a pharmacy pee-on a stick deal.) I don't have any real support networks where I am, and leaving isn't a viable option. I haven't been to an actual doctor yet because I'm not entirely sure HOW to see one in the states, but from what I understand false positives are unlikely. I don't want to keep the baby. What are my options?
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My last period was about 6 weeks ago (I have a fairly long cycle, so I wasn't concerned until recently). I had to go off the pill recently because I was having pretty bad side-effects and switched to condoms but I guess that didn't work...
From what I understand abortions become more dangerous the later you wait, so waiting until August to go back home seems stupid. But at the same time, I don't have any support here or anyone to take me to the doctor. I'm about 2 hours from the Canadian border, so its an option to travel there for appointments, but that border is not my hometown so I still wouldn't have a support network. Truthfully, I want to never have to think about this ever again and feel like the best way to achieve that is to not tell anyone. So if possible I'd prefer to do that. Is there services for women who don't have a "friend" to pick them up (The websites all say you need someone to bring you to the appointment, I don't have that.)
I'm scared, and I feel like I have to make decisions immediately that I am not equipped to do. I found out 3 or 4 days ago and have been mostly ignoring the existence of the problem, but since it isn't going away on its own, I feel like I need to get proactive. I don't trust anyone in my life enough to tell them about this; I've run through the options in my head and the thought of telling each person terrifies me. I know my b/f would be affected extremely by this, and since I have NO intention of having this baby, I don't see the point in burdening him. It's bad enough I have to deal with this. I get that some might find this morally questionable, but I don't see the point in BOTH having to live with this when raising a child is impossible. (And the idea of someone else raising my child is not palatable to me.)
I don't want to put my location because I don't want anyone to figure out who I am.
I'd prefer no judgement on my decision to have an abortion, but help on how to get one, what to expect, how to not have to tell anyone.
Bonus to anyone who can tell me what to expect from the actual procedure, the internet is scary and I keep finding pro-life horror stories that are making me want to cry.