How can I stop 'letting' my coworkers bother me?
September 21, 2005 8:02 AM Subscribe
How can I stop being bothered by little things at work? There are some things my coworkers do that drive me nuts, but they aren't the sort of things you just ask people to stop doing.
posted by Godbert to Work & Money (42 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
About three months ago, I started my first job out of college. It's a smallish company, without enough cubicles or 'proper' offices for everyone, so I was put in a room in the back with one other person.
I don't have much a problem with him, as he's generally very quiet. Like most of the people here, though, he eats his lunch (and a snack in the afternoon) at his desk. I don't know whether or not it's just me, but it seems like he chews very loudly.
In the office next door (though there aren't any doors, just doorways) is a guy who seems to spend all day just sniffling and snorting (imagine the sound someone makes when they have a cold and sniffle, then amplify it a little). This is something that's always driven me insane.
More recently (in the last month or so) a third person was hired and also put in the same back room as me. His desk is along the third full wall in the room, which puts his chair (and him) about two or three feet behind me. Other than a small bit of the sniffling, he doesn't overtly do anything to annoy me; rather, his simple presence there drives my stress level through the roof (I feel much more relaxed on days/hours he's not in).
I know these aren't the sorts of things you can just ask people to stop. After all, I can't very well ask the "new guy" (he's easily 30 years older than me, and would probably 'outrank' me if titles/hierarchy were clearly defined) to stop working at his desk. The sound of other people typing really gets to me (and has since college), but it's not an option to try to get people to stop typing.
What's a good way to stop letting myself get annoyed/stressed at these things? Is it as unreasonable as I think to be bothered so much by all this?