How to seem...sluttier than I am.
September 21, 2005 3:50 AM Subscribe
Help: my new boyfriend has had way more sex than me.
posted by anonymous to human relations (22 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a woman, mid-20s. He's the same age. I've been with a few people, but none was particularly experienced or adept either, and I basically feel like I've not really experienced "good" sex and don't even really know what that would look like.
I know if he cares about me that this shouldn't matter to him and blah blah, but I'm really quite hung up on it, and I don't want to turn him off with seeming green or whatever; in fact, I don't want to seem that way even if it wouldn't turn him off. He doesn't actually know the specifics of my sexual history, and I'd kind of like him not to be able to guess at its brevity.
We recently slept together for the first time, and I felt like I didn't have the motions or the timing down, basically just felt clumsy, compared to him. It lasted way longer than I'm used to, and I found myself thinking, "what should I do to fill all this time?" (No, I didn't come. Let's leave that out of it for the moment.) This is strange for me because I don't think I'm generally unphysical or anything; I'm very comfortable with, e.g., making out, blow jobs, and I think I'm rather good at those things. But for the actual penetrative part, I'm at a bit of a loss.
In short: what can you tell me that I would have learned from having had more/better partners? What can I do to be more adroit/what mistakes am I likely to make? There seems to be a comparative dearth of information for women on how to be good at sex. I know about the Guide to Getting It On, and I guess I'd better read it stat. I'd really like some live advice too, though.
If I'm truly treading the wrong line of thought here, then: how can I become less neurotic about this?