Don't want to register for my baby...am I making a mistake?
June 1, 2013 4:06 PM Subscribe
I don't want to register for the upcoming birth of my child. Nothing against people who do it, but (1) I am a minimalist; (2) I enjoyed the wedding gifts I got that didn't come from my registry (heartfelt, unique, awesome); and (3) what I do need is on the more expensive side (so I can either load up the registry with crap I don't want or come off looking greedy). Am I making a big mistake?
posted by juliagulia to Human Relations (59 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Look, I get it. I would love for others to buy everything for this kid, but in reality I know people love giving cutesy items at a shower or for the baby's birth and most people I know will be looking at the $30-50 price point (not the $75-200 price point of the few items that I feel I really need). Those who want to spend more, like close family, I would hope would ask me what I need, and then if they insist I could name a specific, pricier item (though I still don't like the idea of Granny buying me a breast pump, for instance).
But I reaaallllllly don't want to register for this baby. I just don't like the idea of it, for all of the reasons mentioned above. And perhaps most of all, I just can't get over the notion that this is a baby, and what do babies need? Not much. And what they do need, I feel I should be responsible for buying. The fact that I'm having a shower is already a gift grab, and so I like that without a registry, people have the freedom to bring what they want. (Although, of course, I understand that a registry is convenient for gift-givers.)
If I could get over the way I feel about this, and if I could look at the practical picture, I would still get hung up by the logistics. I think it would look really weird and bad to have only about 8 items on my registry that are all between $75 and $200 (most closer to $200). And I just don't think that's in people's price points, not to mention the fact that what I feel I need are the kinds of things that people probably wouldn't feel right buying me, either, because they're things like car seats and breast pumps and video monitors. In other words, I don't expect that registering will somehow get me the things that I need anyway. (Some of you might say here "go ahead and register even if they won't buy it!" But I don't like the concept of baby registries so much that I don't think the utility of registering for those few items will outweigh how I feel about it.)
So in my mind I'm okay with this, I think, but I am getting crap from shower guests who don't have a "guide" and I need reassurance that this is okay or voices of reason telling me to go ahead and register (even with my short, expensive registry wish-list).