Approaching mid 30s single; telling people to mind their own business?
May 25, 2013 4:19 AM Subscribe
I am a female and have never been married and live with my cat. After a disastrous relationship where I "attempted" to settle 2 years ago, I have been single. Every time I talk to relatives and "well meaning" friends they keep teasing me that I am a "cat lady" and reminding me of my biological clock.
posted by sabina_r to Human Relations (59 answers total) 17 users marked this as a favorite
Except, I am well aware of my age and that I need to "hurry up" if I want kids. I never longed for kids the way other women did but in my ideal life, yes I would fall in love and have a family. I don't want to bring up kids if they are not a part of the family unit. I am also realistic. I know that I am quirky and connect to very few men and I have already attempted to give men that I wasn't crazy about a chance. I don't have a paper list of standards but I need the chemistry and connection. However, explaining this over and over again can get tiresome.
Add to that the pressure of my own family....and I don't know what to do. Admittedly, it is a sore point for me, and no, I am not exactly ecstatic to live alone with my cat for the rest of my life. But I have accepted it and have other goals in life. Marriage is not meant for everyone, and I can't just be depressed over my singledom every day. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't.
How to politely tell people to stop asking?