Help me come up with a sassy quip in response to people's sexism.
May 17, 2013 7:32 AM Subscribe
I work in a small shop in a male dominated trade. I am 26 but read younger (by up to 10 years if you have a weird idea of how teenagers look) small, blonde, and need to dress casually (jeans and a tshirt and sneakers) due to the nature of my work. Customer's ask me on a near-daily basis if I'm my boss's daughter. I hate this, I feel it undermines my value as an employee who has worked hard to be in the position I'm in. I'd like to think of a response that makes them feel like a ninny for one second, without offending customers.
posted by euphoria066 to Human Relations (47 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Despite my relative youth and "cuteness" I've been at my job and in my trade a long time. I'm lucky, but I work hard and am a fast learner and am creative to the point that my boss has a lot of respect for my opinion on how jobs should be done, and in the interest of me taking over the business has started introducing me to customers regularly. My job is great, I've been lucky to avoid most of the sexism in the male dominated (but changing) industry. It's a complete non-issue to my boss, which I love.
But, upon my being called downstairs from the studio to meet customers, about one in 3's responses are "oh, is this your daughter?"
I haaaate it. haha. but I don't want to offend. I just want to maybe poke their awareness in the direction of "oh, geez, that was pretty sexist and ageist of me, wasn't it. of course a young woman could train and work hard for a career she wanted in a male dominated trade and not just have it being a matter of following her father's footsteps."
it can be soft enough that if someone isn't aware of those kinds of attitudes being a problem it could roll off them. I don't want to piss people off, I'm usually quite good at the jibber jabber, but despite this being a common interaction, it hurts, offends and floors me every time and I just stutter "um... no."
I realize it may not be worth alienating someone by actually saying these things, but even if I knew one and I could repeat it in my head and make myself feel sassier, I'd enjoy that.