Ob/Gyn in NYC?

April 26, 2013 4:35 PM

My wife and I generally have an excellent sex life, but occasionally when I try to penetrate her she experiences extreme discomfort. Fingers are fine, but penis is not (I'm somewhat thick). This is regardless of position, lube, amount of foreplay, with/without condom, etc. She's been to a couple doctors, but neither seemed particularly invested in really getting to the bottom of it, even to the point of being somewhat dismissive. Sadly, this seems to be the default of most doctors these days. So...can anyone suggest an Ob/Gyn (or other appropriate specialist) in NYC? Someone that will take her seriously and really do the work to figure out what's going on? Thanks...from both of us.
posted by The Dutchman to Health & Fitness (13 answers total)

This does not directly answer your question (sorry), but has anyone recommended a Vaginal Dilator Set? They are commonly used to help relax the muscles and tissue for issues such as painful sex - also commonly used after childbirth, etc. You can buy them easily on Amazon and many sets have good reviews.
posted by Crystalinne at 4:42 PM on April 26, 2013

This doesn't answer your question either, but does it correlate at all with constipation?
posted by 3491again at 4:44 PM on April 26, 2013 [1 favorite]

The search term that may be most helpful is vaginismus - by all reports it's a tricky thing to treat and you probably want to look for someone with experience with that specific thing.
posted by restless_nomad at 4:58 PM on April 26, 2013 [1 favorite]

I recommend Downtown Women OBGYN on Prince & Broadway, they've never been dismissive of my pain issues when I've had exams there.
posted by oh yeah! at 5:01 PM on April 26, 2013 [1 favorite]

Response by poster: Crystalline - Thanks. Hasn't been recommended before, but most of the time it's just fine. More like a few times a year flare-up.

3491again - Dunno. I'll ask her. If so, does that indicate something, or just the fact of it can cause vaginal pain?

Restless and oh yeah, thanks a lot.

...I'll keep checking back for any more thoughts.

Oh...by the way, bonus points if they take Freelancer's Union insurance.
posted by The Dutchman at 5:48 PM on April 26, 2013

Check your MeMail.
posted by etc. at 5:58 PM on April 26, 2013

Ah, screw it. I MeMailed you because I didn't want to get ban hammered for shilling for a friend, but it's relevant:

Brooklyn Health Physical Therapy

Gopi specializes in women's health / pelvic floor disorders. This is exactly what she works on every day. Get a prescription for PT and go to Brooklyn Health.
posted by etc. at 6:08 PM on April 26, 2013

Dr. Ryan Sobel is awesome (I believe he just left this practice but they should be able to connect you with him).

Also, I second Brooklyn Health Physical Therapy. Gopi is wonderful.
posted by Shebear at 6:10 PM on April 26, 2013 [1 favorite]

You might find some helpful tips on Reddit's bigdickproblems forum.
posted by vsync at 6:21 PM on April 26, 2013

Try Ending Female Pain by Isa Herrera, I believe the author also has a clinic in NYC. Muscle tension has definitely been an issue for me.

Also, we gave up birth control...almost every form irritates by body, hormones, latex and chemicals all. I am a million times happier using nothing but coconut oil. Rhythm method/pull out.

Good luck! Keep trying...this can be and is worth fixing!
posted by jrobin276 at 7:14 PM on April 26, 2013 [1 favorite]

Just throwing in that this can be a side effect of medication, including things like non-prescription allergy meds.
posted by MexicanYenta at 9:03 PM on April 26, 2013

There's a pelvic pain obgyn office in the FiDi, on Maiden Ln, with great doctors.
posted by manicure12 at 2:07 PM on April 28, 2013

I hated every GYN I tried in the city until I found her, but I'd take a damn bullet for Dr. Lorraine Chrisomalis. She's always spent leisurely time with me before any check-up going over any concerns I may have and she's a warm, non-judgmental listener. She also accepts many types of insurance, if that's relevant.
posted by superfluousm at 10:18 AM on May 2, 2013