Using photos that aren't yours
March 31, 2013 8:57 PM Subscribe
Someone asked to use photos I took at their event to give to the media, and then used them on their Facebook page without asking me. I need to calibrate my anger and response.
posted by jimmythefish to Human Relations (49 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
So this weekend I was attending an Easter egg hunt event at my kid's new preschool, which we paid $7/kid for. It's a for-profit preschool that requires no parent volunteering or interaction. I hadn't met the owner yet.
I have a large, expensive camera rig because I do occasional professional photography, and was using it to shoot photos of my kid and my friends' kids. So, the media shows up later to do a community event shoot and the owner approaches me afterwards and explains that they showed up late and could she use some of my photos to send to them. Sure, I say. There's a 6pm deadline. Fine.
So, I go through the photos for about an hour, flag ones I think would be good for her, upload them to Flickr and send her the link via email on-time. Wasn't expecting anything mre than a 'thanks'.
No response. Next day, still no response.
OK, fine. My wife notices that the photos are up on her business Facebook page. Still no response from her. So, I send this:
Glad you could use the photos on your Facebook page. As I said I'm happy to take photos but a kind thank you and heads up that you're putting them on your Facbook page is the normal protocol here. I don't have that massive lens just because I do OK at my dayjob...I keep track of these things. While I appreciate that you asked me that the news wanted the photos, I don't believe you mentioned other uses. Ours is largely a business relationship (I wouldn't ask you to take time out of your Saturday to look after my kid for free) and if you don't say so much as a 'thanks for doing that' with the hour I spent yesterday going through photos and posting them, it will remain as such.
She responds about an hour later with a long email ranting back at me, often in FULL CAPS how she is running a LOCAL BUSINESS and she would NEVER SEND AN EMAIL LIKE THAT and OTHER PARENTS CONTRIBUTE and it's FACEBOOK for a PRESCHOOL. And says that she was honestly offended by my comments and hurt and etc.
So, I'm standing pretty firm on this one. In my mind, it's simply theft as she's using these photos for business purposes. It's theft because it's a job that I would have demanded $200-$300 for. I stand my ground on these things because the devaluation of work in the digital realm is now to the point where people don't even realize they're stealing. The emtitlement is ridiculous.
We're at this preschool until July so I don't have to make a lifelong friend. My wife sees my point but thinks I'm being harsh and says that she needs to deal with this person. I have agreed with my wife to smooth things over and since responded that we should meet face to face and that email isn't the way to resolve this, but no reply. My blood is still boiling over it. Furthermore, if this affects her treatmet of my daughter or my wife, I will go the fuck off.
So what's a dude to do, given that I still have to have a relationship with this person?