March 30, 2013 9:48 AM Subscribe
Need advice on a situation at work.
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (24 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I have been employed as a software developer in a group of 5 developers at a government office for about 10 months now. I came from private industry and in particular, small startup type companies where we worked hard. The amount of chit-chat among coworkers at this new office has been startling. They have daily conversations, unrelated to work, for an hour, sometimes even more. (Fwiw, the small company I had worked for previously was bought out by a large corporation and ruined our fun little company, so I left).
I am not a talker. I am an introvert (though I am not shy or socially inept). I'm good for 10 minutes of 'how was your weekend' sort of conversation. I prefer to work. Most of the others have figured this out. We chat for a bit and we're done. One, however, has not. He is unable to interpret non-verbal cues that I am not interested in conversing. Yesterday, he was in my office for a total of 2 hours. What's more, he can be overbearing. He is interested in stating his opinions, not interested if you disagree. He has picked up my (personal) tablet, which I keep on my desk and started pressing buttons. If I try to give a hint that I'm not interested in talking by leaning into my screen, he'll get right in there, tell me what to do. Even took my mouse once and started clicking. Regardless, even if he was the nicest guy ever, I would rather work. I can sometimes end the conversation by walking out of the office, to go get tea, or claim that I have to go upstairs to talk to someone, but one can only do this so many times.
I feel I can't talk to my boss, who is actually a pretty good guy, because he could perceive this as a personality conflict. This guy is the most important/experienced developer on the team and so I would be the one go to. The probationary period for my position is at the one year mark (2 months away) and at that point its a lot harder to get rid of someone. It might be possible to talk to my boss after that, though I'm not sure how I would initiate that conversation.
Any suggestions on how to handle this?