How to not act superior?
March 24, 2013 9:13 PM Subscribe
I received some feedback recently that I come across as arrogant, condescending, and pretentious. How can I stop coming across this way, externally? How can I get at the root of underlying attitudes, internally?
posted by anonymous to human relations (53 answers total) 24 users marked this as a favorite
I'm highly intelligent verbally - according to a few standardized tests you take before going to college and grad school - and less so socially. Not inept, but not someone who finds it natural to relate to everyone.
I have always had a larger vocabulary than most of my cohort, and tend to prioritize precision over simplicity. The person conveying this feedback suggested that this might be a part of the problem.
What do I need to be on the lookout for, behaviorally? Emotionally/attitudinally? Advice from those who have made this adjustment in their own lives is especially appreciated.