Beautiful Delightful Smiling Meetup Has Gotten Huge, HELP!!!
March 22, 2013 8:24 AM Subscribe
I host a group for a meetup style event that has exploded from being 20 people to 40 people and shows no sign of slowing growth. Help my manage things so that we scale well given that it is volunteer and there's no cash involved?
posted by Phalene to human relations (13 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
It's an alternative lifestyle meetup for a younger crew. It's trans/gay/queer positive, with a great vibe and energy. I would really like to allow us to scale up a bit without losing the joy.
We've exceeded the size of our free upstairs balcony of the bar we have our main event in right now. We've also managed to have more drama than the group should have- one of our most useful volunteers is banned from promotional efforts by someone who is not even involved in the group and everyone appears to get overly emotionally attached and decide that this is their baby- I'm the host because I get along with the most number of people- think of a lot of conversations running "I see what you mean, it is very stressful when you feel (s)he doesn't respect the effort you put in/listen to you, but we need to focus on actually making sure this event happens." That and growling "Everyone listen to me! NOBODY is in charge. Got that?" Yes, I'm aware of the irony of that last part.
This particular hobby also seems to attract more than its fair share of well meaning people with no social skills and people who are absolutely fucking crazy. Boundary issues are a big deal, so I have to wrangle that many people who want to help also need to be vetted to make sure that they won't make people really uncomfortable. This ranges from people who kiss hands to keeping my ears and eyes open to "(s)he is a predator!"
If we scale up, we may need to start renting a space. That means door fees, liabilities... oh god. We're all relatively broke. I dread trying to have any sort of committee structure with treasurers and everything I've seen that tried to go non-profit instantly exploded. Not everyone who is a member wants to admit this is their idea of a fun hobby and the non-youth version of this is mired in bullshit drama after drama, that is one part based on petty ego and one part based on very serious boundaries and people being jerks. Please hope me!?