Guilt over writing bad online reviews or using coupons?
March 14, 2013 9:55 AM Subscribe
Do you ever feel bad about writing bad online reviews or using coupons? Am I ridiculous for even worrying about it? More below.
posted by AppleTurnover to human relations (42 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I really like reviewing stuff online. I personally use online reviews to make decisions all the time and I feel like once I've experienced a place, there's no reason not to pass along my newly acquired knowledge to someone who could use it. I also think it stems from a disdain for chains (where you always know exactly what you are getting) -- I want to try unfamiliar places and I hope other people will too. But feel a bit guilty about writing a bad review. These restaurants and businesses are people's livelihoods and these aren't giant corporate chains but families who are trying to bring something new to the world. Specifically, a new Indian restaurant opened up near me and I was excited to try it because I love Indian food, but it was AWFUL. I wanted to give it a 1-star rating, but I gave it 2-stars because I felt bad. I still feel like I should go back and be honest with a 1-star, but then I feel like an asshole because the family that owned it was so nice. I was as constructive as possible in my review, but still. Is it shitty to just leave a scathing review and move on?
And then, what about coupons? I will use a coupon at, say, McDonalds, but I won't at, say, a local Indian restaurant. Part of me realizes this is irrational because the franchise owner of McDonalds could very well be some local family who took a chance, just like the family owning the Indian place. But I guess I don't care if McDonalds went out of business, but I'd feel bummed if a local Indian place closed. But then I think, well they chose to issue coupons -- I can't make their business decisions for them. And if I have already been there without a coupon, why can't I save $10 myself? I probably in just the past few months could've saved like $50-$100 using coupons/vouchers for these types of places, but I just refuse and I hardly have money to spare these days.
Do you feel any ethical or moral dilemmas in the world of patronizing local businesses? Or do I need to get a life? :)