Honesty is the best policy... except when it's not
March 9, 2013 2:34 PM Subscribe
Manpulationfilter: how do I subtly get other people (or myself) to 'come up' with or believe in ideas? In other words how does one perform Christopher Nolan style inception IRL?
posted by dinosaurprincess to human relations (23 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
This sounds super stealthy and manipulative I know (and it probably could be), and I'm not asking with a specific purpose in mind but I was just wondering if you had ever done this, and if so... How? I know this is super broad, and partly a question about persuasion, but I am really curious and if refined Ithink that this could totally be an interesting super power! Let me know!
Or alternatively how could you raise suggestions up while sidestepping the defence mechanisms of the other person which usually causes them to say 'no'? I have seen virtually two people raise the same suggestion to the same audience with completely opposite results but I can't quite put my finger on why, and as a procrastinating daydreamer urgently need to have answers!
E.g. of scenarios where you want to persuade/incept someone off the top of my head:
-you wish your teacher would decide to go on a field trip which is kind of relevant to your course or to play a documentary/movie that you want to watch anyway
-you want your teacher to consider nominating your friend for a scholarship or a role in a play
-you want your friend to stop liking/notice the bad parts of someone who you had a crush on first
-you want a love interest to start seeing you in a different context (either from romantic to non-romantic, or vice versa)
-you want your friend to ask you to encourage you to join his football group
-you want your friend to introduce you to someone she knows
-you want your friend to feel more confident and stop obsessing about her hair or body shape
-you are at a job interview and want your interviewers to think that you would be a good asset to the team
-you want your boss to move you to a different team because there is someone on your team you work really badly with
-you want to trick yourself into internalising something you know is true on a rational level but nonetheless find hard to put into practise (or self-limiting beliefs)
TL;DR how do I incept/persuade people with ideas?