What should I say?
March 9, 2013 11:49 AM Subscribe
I met and had a great conversation with a beautiful woman on public transit but I blanked when the time came to get her contact info. I'm about to facebook message her... How should I put this? Full explanation inside.
posted by matt_od to human relations (36 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Yesterday morning I was riding the San Francisco MUNI into work quite late and a couple stops after I got on a beautiful woman gets on with a friend. Really makes my brain go goofy. I never do it but a big part of me wanted to say hello to her, but she was in conversation with her friend the whole time and I was not going to interrupt. I get to my stop and get off and they get off as well but go in the opposite direction. Oh well, so goes life.
I end up leaving work early and head back down to MUNI and as I enter the station and head towards the gate I look to my left and there she is again! Heading towards the same gate. We both get to the gate and both of us are greeted by red X's showing our cards are empty. So we both have to head over to the pay station and reload our cards. Then we both head back over to the gate and enter and at this time I just can't take it anymore and I blurt out "Hey I think we were on the same train this morning" as casually as I can. She responds with a "oh, cool" and then silence so I just nod and smile and walk on. Then she calls after me "it must be the crazy pants." I was flabbergasted and amazed, but she engaged in the conversation! We kept talking and walking together and had a nice pleasant conversation wherein we introduced ourselves and talked about where we worked.
Eventually her train came, the doors opened and she turned and said "I hope to see you around." I was dumbstruck and just nodded and said "yeah". She got on her train and off it went. I of course immediately started kicking myself for not asking for her number or email. Shortly after I asked four different female friends from all walks of life if, considering the interaction, I found her online would it be ok to message her with the equivalent of "Hey great meeting you and it was silly that I didn't think to get your email, but would you like to meet for coffee sometime?" All my friends responded with a resounding, "yes! do it!" And one of them including the sage advice of, you only get to message her once, no more.
So I'm all ready to do it but I'm hung up on one thing... do I explain how I found her? It's really not that crazy. I found her work's website, they had about five people listed on their corporate team and so I facebook searched them and there she was, standing next to one of these people in their profile picture. But I'm hung up on it that is important or not. If she'd be weirded out getting the message with no explanation or weirded out by an explanation.