Is 30 too old to date online?
March 8, 2013 2:33 PM Subscribe
I'm 30 years old. I really want a long-term relationship that will lead to marriage. I've been on eHarmony for the past few months and am starting to get frustrated at the general lack of response from men my age. On those sites, I get a lot of people who check out my profile but don't respond. I initiated contact with more than 20 guys I found interesting, but only got a response back from one. And he suddenly stopped communicating halfway through our "guided communication" phase. Sure, he could have found someone else, or decided online dating wasn't for him, I totally understand. It's just disheartening when the only guy who responds closes me as a match.
I tweak my profile on a regular basis and update my photos but nothing I do seems to bring more response from men.
posted by starpoint to Human Relations (48 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
Offline, I do a variety of activities centered around my interests that attract men and women of all ages. But the only men who show interest in me are 45+. No offense or hard feelings toward them, but that's just too old for me right now. I get men who are in their 50s, old enough to be my father who flirt and make suggestive remarks. The sad thing is, I'd be interested in some of those men if only they were 15-30 years younger!! Guys my age don't seem to notice me at all. Only older men.
So that makes me think: is my age the culprit? Could it be that the guys my age on eHarmony see that I'm 30 and pass me over for a woman in her 20s? If you're a guy in your 30s, do you prefer women in their 20s? And I probably get attention from older men because to them, I am young. Most of the older men that have flirted with me initially thought I was 25-27 and are usually surprised to learn I'm 30.
Really frustrating. No one wants to date anyone their age. At least, that's how it's feeling to me. I really would prefer a man in his 30s. So my question is:
* Is 30 too old to date online? Am I wasting my time on the dating sites?
* Do men in their 30s generally prefer women in their 20s?
Any insights are appreciated, I'm starting to feel hopeless. I really regret not starting the dating process 10 years earlier! I just wasn't interested in dating in my 20s and now I am...but it might be too late for me. :(