I'd prefer water: How can I sever the ties of next of kinship?
March 4, 2013 12:30 AM Subscribe
My family are terrible. I've recently, with the help of therapy and mortality staring me down, finally cut ties to their toxic presence. How can I make sure that they're never legally or otherwise involved in my life again? In the US, married, very ill.
posted by sweltering to law & government (9 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My family denies that I'm legitimately disabled (while also believing that I should not be treated for my pain). On a feeding tube and in a power wheelchair, I've finally lost patience and cut them off -- I need to focus on getting better (or, more accurately, not getting worse) full time right now. I have a living will and durable power of attorney that designates my husband as the person to make medical decisions for me (with a friend named second if my husband is not available). My husband is also the executor of my will (though I have little in the way of assets). All these say in no uncertain terms that my family is never to be notified or to make decisions on my behalf. I used Rocket Lawyer to make them.
Have I missed anything, in legally separating myself from anything where next of kinship might leave my family able to be notified of my location, condition or (worst) to make decisions about me? What if both my husband and the friend were unable to make decisions for me (the hypothetical car accident we all get into together)? What options might exist beyond the cobbled together Power of Attorney + Living Will + Will (is adult adoption still done)? Is the Rocket Lawyer documentation enough? What pitfalls could I encounter just using those documents? I live in Washington (state).
If I need to see a lawyer, what sort of lawyer do I need to see? YANML, of course.