Talking: How does it work?
February 27, 2013 1:39 PM Subscribe
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about three months, and just about everything is great. We see each other almost every day and sleep at each other's houses so often we practically live together. We have everything in common, and I've never met anyone I click with that much. One thing we have in common that's not so great, though: we're both shy, and sometimes we don't know what to say to each other! How can we overcome this? And, while we're on the subject, what are some good conversation starters? More info below.
posted by Gee, June! to Human Relations (39 answers total) 36 users marked this as a favorite
This problem comes up most often at meals when we're forced to face each other. Other times - like cuddling on the couch or lying around in bed - we find no end of things to talk about! But when we're at a restaurant, I get nervous all of a sudden, and my mind goes blank. We've actually talked about this - he has the exact same problem. And even though he knows this is a mutual issue, he still sometimes worries that I'm quiet and fidgeting awkwardly because I don't want to be there. I can't really blame him. I have the same worries, and we both know that we like each other a lot and those worries are silly. Sure, we could try to be content to just enjoy each other's company silently, but we don't really want that. I, for one, would like to be able to maintain a conversation with my handsome fella! What can I do? What are some good conversation starting topics for someone you *do* actually know?
Incidentally: we're both in our thirties and fairly experienced in relationships. I think, in both our cases, all our exes did most of the talking. Heh.