Having a hard time getting erect
February 26, 2013 10:42 PM Subscribe
I'll try to keep this short and thorough. I'm a 25 year old male, I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months, and I'm still a virgin. I've never had a ton of sexual experiences in my past (oral), but this one has me a little confused and stressed out.
About 4 days ago I was with my girlfriend and we were giving each other oral, (we haven't had vaginal sex yet) I always go down on her first and then she does down on me. Now normally I get incredibly turned on, very easily, and with anything from hugging and cuddling, to kissing and foreplay. It always gives me a very full and hard erection, and in the past I've never had any problem at all about having an orgasm. However on this night while my girlfriend was going down on me, right in the middle I suddenly became soft and completely lost my erection. This has never happened to me before, and in the last 4 days, everything that normally turns me on and gives me that full erection, has barely even given me a "chubby" so to speak. I'm finding it very hard to get turned on, and its making both my girlfriend and I quite upset.
posted by stonecutters88 to human relations (15 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Now I've been to the doctor to be sure that nothing was wrong physically, he ran a few tests and everything came back fine, so from what I can see there's nothing wrong from a physical point of view. I am having a bit of difficulty with the mental barrier, because in an effort to try and make my girlfriend understand what I was feeling I messed up and said a few things that came out wrong, which made her even more upset and aided in my anxiety and stress.
In the 4 days I haven't masturbated or haven't done oral with my girlfriend, and I find that when I think about really trying to turn myself on I get nothing. As I mentioned before I'm struggling to get turned on, and everything that normally gets me very turned on hasn't been doing it lately. I love my girlfriend very much, and I find her very, very attractive, both physically and mentally.
I'm wondering if this is a normal/common thing to have happen? And what would be some good tips to fix it? If anyone else has ever experienced something similar and can share with me it would be greatly appreciated.