How soon is too soon to plan a family?
February 26, 2013 10:28 PM Subscribe
Lately, I have been thinking a lot about having babies, like this random thought that keeps popping up over and over again. But the career path that I am planning to embark on will probably lead to me being an older mom. How can I know if I'm making the right choice and how can I find out more before getting committed to one path or another?
posted by kettleoffish to Human Relations (18 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I am in my mid/late twenties. Ok, soon I'm going to be entering the last quartile of my twenties.
I am curious for some other perspectives on this, being a woman in an urban setting, college educated and hoping for more education and life experiences before having kids. None of my peers/close friends are even married, though many of them have settled down but none of them want kids any time soon, so it's hard to discuss this with them.
Career-wise, I have a very good idea of what I want to end up doing, but not exactly how or when my career is going to really take shape (it will involve a long, committed training program that will make kids impossible for at least a few years). The truth is though, I would love to meet someone and have kids within the next few years.
If I feel this way now, what are the chances that at 35, I'll really regret not starting a family, even if it requires dialing down the career goals? How could I reach out and find out more about this in my day to day life (I'm thinking books, novels, or nonfiction/research, since I don't know many women with children in a personal capacity, though yes in a professional one).
Many thanks for any suggestions.