How do I deal with my SO's depression?
February 26, 2013 3:33 PM Subscribe
My SO has depression, and he's about to start taking medication for it. Seeing him depressed makes me upset, and sometimes I show this in front of him, which makes him feel worse. How can I deal with this better, and how can I help him deal with this?
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I'll keep this short! My SO has depression, and he's about to start taking medication for it. Some days he is quite withdrawn, and seems like an 'empty' version of the person I see when we're out and having a good time together.
I find it quite easy to get upset by this – sometimes I'll cry in front of him, and this makes him feel bad because he can see he's upsetting me. I find this quite hard to control, but I'm getting progressively better at it. We go through a cycle of seeing him depressed, getting upset, which he then sees, and this causes him to hold back from telling me exactly how bad he's feeling. (NB: We don't live together, so a lot of our communication is textual – email, SMS – although we see each other regularly).
So I guess my questions are: how can I help him? How can I avoid fostering a culture where he feels like he can't tell me things because I might get upset?
Thanks in advance, MeFi!