We have a date -- now what?
February 23, 2013 11:18 AM Subscribe
I followed your overwhelming advice and gave this guy
my number. It worked! He immediately texted me back and we have a date tonight. Trouble is I'm a bundle of nerves because he intimidates me. I need advice on how to keep my cool tonight. :)
posted by timsneezed to human relations (45 answers total) 19 users marked this as a favorite
For those who didn't read the original thread, I'm a part time barista at this cafe and have been admiring a very hot, very smart regular for a few months. I got the distinct impression he was also checking me out. I did something really ballsy the other day and slipped my number into the sleeve of his coffee. It seemed like a shot in the dark and I was surprised when he responded.
He told me he was so glad he found it and that I "always catch his eye in the morning." Then he asked me out for drinks. He wanted to call me up but I told him I'm not a phone person so we kept it text only.
I've never been so nervous about a first date. He seems a bit out of my league. He's an astrophysicist, plus he's hot and not at all nerdy looking. From the little interaction we've had he's sweet, polite, self-possessed and not socially awkward. All that put together he seems like he must be flooded with options. In fact another girl at the cafe also has a crush on him but he wasn't interested in her. He does seem rather shy, though. Whenever I took his order his voice would shake just a little, which was pretty adorable. :D I'm attractive and smart enough but I'm far less accomplished than he is.
Moreover I'm worried about ruining this by being my shy, nervous self. Many guys are put off by my shyness. We haven't really chatted at all aside from the taking/receiving of orders because he makes me nervous, so he is a virtual stranger which adds to the awkwardness.
How do I calm myself down? Also would it be a bad idea for me to text him before and warn him that I'm shy at first? Telling myself to relax or just have fun isn't going to help. I'll be unlikely to reprogram myself in the space of a few hours, but I'd like to dial down my nerves down a little.
And what do we talk about? I'm more of an arts person and know very little about the sciences, although I have a couple of physicists in my family.