How can an inexperienced-for-his-age guy find NSA sex?
February 20, 2013 9:47 AM Subscribe
Early-30s straight guy here. Shy with women, by no means a social butterfly (social moth?), so have little sexual experience - I lost my virginity relatively late and have only had a handful of very brief relationships and one-night stands since. I'd like to have some casual sex as a way of gaining confidence and learning the ropes (oh, and for fun), but haven't had any success finding it so far. Ideas?
posted by anonymous to human relations (26 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
What I've tried so far is Craigslist casual encounters, where I've posted about half a dozen ads saying basically the above. Apart from the mountains of spam, I've had one or two genuine responses, but those women flaked or got cold feet after exchanging a couple of emails.
I have an OKCupid profile, but I don't want to mention the inexperienced/NSA thing there because half the people I know are on OKC and it would embarrass me if they stumbled upon it.
What else should I be trying? Are paid sites like Adult Friend Finder and Ashley Madison worth a shot? I guess I could try the bar scene, but (apart from the fact that I seriously suck at chatting women up) it seems like it would be very awkward to bring a woman home, start getting intimate and then have to tell her I basically don't know what I'm doing, while it would be equally weird to blurt out "Oh btw, I'm a near virgin" when flirting over a beer. I want to have that laid out (pun honestly unintended) from the start.
(Please no replies along the lines of "look for a real relationship" - I'm doing that too (no luck there either, thanks for asking) but this question isn't about that.)