Did I inadvertently tell my beau that I love him?
February 19, 2013 2:54 PM Subscribe
I gave my boyfriend a surprise gift of a list of one hundred things I loved about him for valentines day. He found it after I left his house and called to say it was the most thoughtful thing anyone had ever done for him. I don't want to be the first to say "I love you" because I never have with any of my previous relationships and prefer a guy say those words first, but upon further reflection I am wondering if the list would count as the inadvertent equivalent of saying those three heavy words.
posted by soooo to Human Relations (35 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
There have been a few times when I thought he was going to say it and it felt like he wanted to say it but hasn't. If I've learned anything from metafilter, it's not to play games but I just can't put my heart out there like that first and feel safer if a guy expresses his love verbally before I do.
For clarity, the question is: Did I inadvertently tell my beau that I love him with the list? And, I do have very strong feelings for him since we've spent so many months together but am not sure if I can say I LOVE HIM without some hesitation or trepidation. Also, he may or may not be granted a visa to stay here, which means I don't want to invest TOO Much and then have to see him go in a few months