I have too much anxiety in the mornings. Help me make it stop.
February 14, 2013 9:12 PM Subscribe
I wake up too early every morning. When I wake up, I immediately start to worry about the Stressful Thing in my life. Then I get the tingly feeling in my skin and my heart starts to pound. And then I can't get back to sleep. And because I'm waking up too early, I haven't had enough to sleep. The sleep deprivation is compounding the anxiety. How do I stop this pattern?
posted by (F)utility to human relations (24 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
I am dealing with the practical repercussions of having left a long-term abusive relationship some time ago. My life is infinitely better (in so many ways!!!) than it was when I was with him, but these issues have to do with our children, so it's not as if I can make a clean break.
I am prone to anxiety as a trait, but don't have any diagnoses. It's been smooth sailing for many months, anxiety-wise, but now I'm about two years out from the separation and I'm starting to feel some (perhaps delayed?) anxieties raising their head. I find that I wake up too early, at about 5 AM, and then immediately start to fret about the latest catastrophe he's created, and then that's it for my night's sleep. I get back- and butt-tingles when I'm stressed and panicky, anyone else get that??
I can't seem to short-circuit the anxiety once it's started despite some really good CBT techniques, and I find that this sense of stress carries into my day: I can't eat breakfast, I usually start to dry heave and occasionally vomit when brushing my teeth, and generally just feel nauseous and sick until after lunchtime.
I have a therapist, and we are exploring this. But his is only one perspective. Can you add your experiences or advice about how to get this to stop and get back on an even keel?
(And if you can't address the root cause, then please just address the symptoms: How do I stop early-waking and dry heaving when I'm anxious?)