How do (or should I) find out how a classmate died?
February 11, 2013 2:37 PM Subscribe
Someone I went to high school with died a year or so ago. I never learned what the cause of death was, and I'm curious. I drive by an adopt a highway sign dedicated to their memory often, and it confuses and bums me out.
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There are a few clues: 1) On their social network profile after their death, some people posted things along the lines "how could they do this?" 2) On their obit, it said donations could be made to a depression-related charity. Those clues lead me to believe that it was a suicide. But no one has ever confirmed it to me. The deceased person was a friend of mine to some extent. I recently asked a few friends/classmates on facebook, people I don't contact regularly anymore, and they won't say anything or reply, despite having recent activity. The messages are kind, start with apologies, explain the adopt a highway signs and talk about how they bum me out and such. I don't want to ask a lot of people and risk alienating them. I do have a few more leads. How should I go about this, or should I just drop the matter? I just want closure. I don't want to know details about what happened. I am in my 20s, if that matters.