He needs a good home, but should it be OUR home?
February 9, 2013 4:59 PM Subscribe
Everybody recognized that it was a bad idea for Mr. and Mrs. X to get a dog except for them. Now they've figured it out and their dog is living a mostly crated, resented, crappy life. The Breav family already has a dog, a 10 year old territorial hound mix who only has one canine friend in the universe. Is there a way for me to make space in this old canine crank's heart for a younger adopted brother, or would we be moving Dog X from one crappy life to another?
posted by Breav to pets & animals (11 answers total)
I haven't spent a lot of time with young Dog X but I know he is submissive in general and gentle with the three small children of the X family. The last time I saw him I tried to take him for a walk and it was apparent that he is walked infrequently. The X home doesn't have much of a yard where he can run around. He's still puppyish and not well trained, so the aggravated Mr. and Mrs. X keep the dog crated a lot of the time. All this adds up to fat Dog X. Mr. and Mrs. X are talking about sending the dog back to the breeder, but I told Mr. X, my relative, that Mr. Breav and I would discuss adopting the dog.
Reasons to take the dog:
We like dogs, feel bad for this dog who is in a situation not of his own making. We would be responsible dog owners for this dog.
We have space here and a dog friendly yard.
We do not have small children (we have large children, but they're not here much anymore).
I work from home and am here most days.
Big reason to not take the dog:
The much loved and generally well behaved canine who lives here doesn't like other dogs, especially other dogs on 'his' yard. I tried to socialize him at the dog park but he hated it. At best, he would sniff around by himself and ignore the other dogs. At worst, he was a big dog jerk. At 10, I don't anticipate much of a personality transplant. He tolerates only one dog, my friend's tiny poodle. The four of us gradually started walking together, dicey at first but now they are side by side without incident. On occasion we sit together in my friend's back yard but we haven't invited the poodle to our yard because of the size difference. I don't want the poodle to be an experiment.
My inclination would be to socialize the two dogs in the same manner of walking, transitioning to more meetings and visits, but the distance between the X and Breav houses makes this impractical. We thought we'd have longer to think about it, but recent FB postings by Mrs. X indicate that this poor dog's days in their home are numbered.
Mr. Breav is not in love with this idea, and he points out that this puppy is not destined for the pound/euthanasia. As destinations go, back to the breeder is not too terrible an option for Dog X. I will not adopt this dog against Mr. Breav's wishes, but we are still in discussions and he has an open mind.
So I guess this is a two part question... should we adopt this dog and if so how do we make it work? We are not people who consider dog adoption to be a temporary arrangement.
This is long and I apologize for that. Thank you for reading all the way to the end.