My boyfriend drinks a lot, should I be worried?
February 8, 2013 2:51 PM Subscribe
My new boyfriend of about a month and a half drinks a freaking lot! We have dated for 8 months and while I was aware he drank, I was never as alarmed as I am now.
I don't know if I just didn't notice it before or if it's because we spend so much time in social situations with his other friends now or what. He doesn't get sloppy drunk or get a temper or anything - though he does become a bit thoughtless, but it makes me uncomfortable how he will just throw back the alcohol. His friends encourage him by buying a round and then he'll buy them a round and so the cycle continues all night or they invite him out to specifically get drunk/drink. I do not drink but the occasional sip/glass of red wine probably like twice a year - only at special events. (more inside)
posted by anonymous to human relations (39 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Every time we've gone out with his friends he'll have like 5 to 7 beers, which seems like a LOT to me. I try to negatively reinforce his behavior by making it known that I won't sleep with him when he's been drinking (I've been adamant about that because his performance sucks when he is drunk). Besides that I don't know what to do or say to him and don't want to seem like I am trying to change him already. I don't want to come across as puritanical - and obviously this is something that he likes to do with his friends (they are all Irish). What should I do?