Advice on 5 year old's behavioral issues?
September 1, 2005 6:13 PM Subscribe
Advice wanted on how to use a carrot (instead of a stick) to reduce a bunch of very frustrating behavioral issues with our 5 year old...
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (11 answers total)
We're having some very frustrating behavior issues with our 5 year old that mostly center around his 20 month old brother. Our main problems are: stating repeatedly that he hates his brother, stating that he hates us, sneaky rough play with his brother, and (curiously) total total total meltdowns at teeth-brushing time.
We realize that a lot of this has to do with having to share his parents more than ever before, as the younger one becomes more capable/destructive. and we've been trying to make time for more one-on-one time with the older one, but we're still seing LOTS of these hassles and tantrums.
Has anyone had any luck with "incentive programs", where say, daily good behavior on certain issues earns a sticker to put on a chart, and when the chart is filled, the child can choose a new toy or book? (Chapter books are a big carrot for this guy.)
Or is this just missing the problem? We'd definitely like some sort of carrot, instead of a stick, for dealing with this stuff.