How do I say "No thanks, I'm taken?"
February 6, 2013 6:44 AM Subscribe
I'm a bartender in a major city, and after having lost a few pounds, the ladies won't leave me alone. How do I handle this?
posted by anonymous to human relations (37 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I understand that this is not normally considered a problem, but I am engaged to be married to a wonderful woman, and I have no interested in sleeping with or making out with or even heavily flirting with these ladies.
I know flirting is part of my job. I have no problem with that in a low key way. Although my job requires me to be super out-going, I'm kind of a shy person at heart, especially when dealing with come-ons. Even when single, it kind of made me nervous.
It's gotten to the point where, at least once or twice a week I'm either flat out asked to come home with someone (which I decline by stating existence of fiancée), or I'm flirted with to such a degree that I become uncomfortable. I then try to ignore the person. Sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. Gah.
Drunk people are not masters of reading cues either so I'm totally at a loss. What should I do in these situations? I feel weird saying "I have a girlfriend" or "I'm engaged" unless its too much like trying to make out with me or asked for sexy sex. Should I just do that? Sometimes it feels presumptuous.
So yeah. Thoughts?