Navigating a lesbian triad
February 5, 2013 10:06 AM Subscribe
About 4 months ago, my partner and I (together about 7 years) started dating another woman. We are starting to hit a few roadbumps in this process, and I'm having trouble finding analogous experiences or resources to help us navigate. Snowflakes, of course.
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While we have been in a theoretically open relationship since we started dating, we haven't acted on that in the 6 years we've lived together. However, it did mean that the conversation has always been open, and when we met someone this past summer with whom we really clicked, we both decided that we wanted to pursue it and see what would happen. It has been a remarkably fun and interesting time for all three of us, with great chemistry and a real sense of all being on the same page of what we want (luckily our third is not super interested in a Relationship, as it were, so it's been kind of dating her, while maintaining our primary relationship).
Inevitably, though, we're starting to find some things that are harder to navigate, particularly as people's feelings for each other get stronger and it gets harder to keep everything feeling equal. I've done some initial googling, but have really not had much luck finding anything online about people in similar situations, which I do usually find helpful. I would love to hear about any resources, books, blogs, etc. of people in similar situations (or general recommendations for navigating this kind of non-monogamy). There seems to be a fair bit out there for FFM triads, or even MMM, but really not much at all for FFF.
I think we're all invested in making this work, but having some resources we could turn to would be really helpful.
Throwaway email is firstname.lastname@example.org. Thanks!