They told me the first year of marriage would be a tricky one...
February 2, 2013 10:05 PM Subscribe
This is a question for those of you who are married (or have an SO): When it comes to things like personal correspondence, is there still such a thing as privacy?
posted by Telpethoron to human relations (65 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
My wife and I have a very open relationship, in the sense that we have few if any secrets from each other. We dated in high school (23 years ago), and got married last year after reuniting during a time when I was convalescent in the hospital. Over the past year, we've developed a deep trust and respect for one's beliefs and opinions.
One area where we have been found to differ, however, is the mail. I've always been of the mindset that if something comes to our home that is not addressed to me, I do not open it without permission. My wife has told me that she is fine with me opening her mail, but I often leave it be - out of courtesy, if nothing else.
My mail, on the other hand, is always opened when I get home from work. Whether it's a letter or a package, I find that she has opened it and looked at (or read) it before putting it aside for me to see. This bothers me, because it strikes me as discourteous. To be clear - I am not trying to hide anything from her. I am simply asking her to extend me the same courtesy that I am giving her, by respecting her privacy in this regard.
My question, then, is twofold: Am I being overly protective of my privacy, given the nature of our relationship? Or is she overstepping the bounds of courtesy?