Gossip: Collateral damage - do I speak up or only talk if asked?
February 2, 2013 2:07 PM Subscribe
I'm caught up in the gossip, but not the main character of the story. Should I go out of my way to tell my coworkers that I also deplore my "friend's" actions?
posted by abirdinthehand to Human Relations (7 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
So much drama at work lately. I am featured in the latest tale, it's pretty serious- lots of lying, betrayal and broken hearts. I am not the bad guy in this story, but was unwittingly involved. It's pretty clear that nearly everyone knows.
I didn't do anything wrong, I was also not the wronged person--
I am feeling the impulse to tell people that I too find the actions of this coworker deplorable. I've discussed it with one coworker who I'm closer with, but so many other people know and I don't know how they see me in this story. It's kind of a hard thing to bring up and frankly I'd rather not discuss it any more than necessary.
I don't want my coworkers to think that I'm indifferent, don't care or in any way condone the actions of this person. I also, don't want to be running around just talking shit and creating more gossip.
What should I do? I'm already distancing myself from the offender, but should I make a point to talk to people who I don't normally talk much with about this and my perspective on it?