Career indecision-sonographer or PA? Where does baby fit in? Urgent!
January 31, 2013 7:32 AM Subscribe
I am 35, my husband is 44. I have always struggled with my career, and recently quit my job and entered a sonography program. Just before entering the program I am in, I also applied to PA school. I have been offered a place in PA school, and I do not know what to do. Lately my biology has caught up with me (baby. now.) and I do not want to put off baby much longer (we could start trying to conceive in exactly one year if I stay and complete the sonography course-I am in the second quarter of a two year course). If I switch to PA, (program is also two years but does not start until 7 months from now) it means either having a baby during my clinical year and going straight back to rotations (ouch) or putting baby off for TWO more years...also ouch. It is worth noting that I do not think that I am strong enough/career motivated enough to leave my baby for 12-14 hours per day, which is why either way, I would like to have the baby at the end of either program, so that I can stay home for a few months before starting my first job. Please see more inside.
posted by acornsarebrown to education (22 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I picked sonography because I think it fits my lifestyle requirements (I would like to work part-time when I have kids, at least the first few years), but long term I'm not sure I would be happy doing the same thing, day in, day out. Also, most of the people close to me are very high up in the medical field (doctors), and although my friends love me and do not judge me, I can't help but feel a little embarrassed that having a tech-level job makes me seem lazy, or not as ambitious, or not as smart, etc. PA, on the other hand, is something that I have always been drawn to (I have worked with PAs for years) and to have been accepted to a program is a huge opportunity that I feel horrible about turning down, and I fear that I might regret not doing it while I have the chance. That said, it is a much more expensive program than sonography (70k as opposed to 15k), so doing it will mean that I am taking away my freedom to possibly scale back after baby (b/c I will have large loans to pay back).
My husband is very supportive of whatever I decide, and does not seem to care that we will be extremely old parents. But I am spooked by the experience of several friends in my age bracket who had problems conceiving, etc. and I really feel like if we want to do this, we need to get working on it, soon. Do I forsake my opportunity for a fulfilling career to start a family? Please help me. I have to let both programs know in just a few days.