Should I be pissed off / wary of my new boyfriend?
January 24, 2013 7:11 PM Subscribe
I just discovered that my bf (official since christmas) had a party dec 1st at his house and didn't invite me to it. I found out b/c I just recently agreed for us to become fb friends (wanted to wait until it was official). We hung out on nov 30th into the day of dec 1st. He created the event on the 25th and never mentioned it at all to me. He also didn't mention it to me after the fact. The thing that really gets me is dec 1st when he was leaving my house he made up an excuse about having to do something that wasn't HOSTING this party.
We weren't officially bf and gf at the time but were hanging out 2x per week and acting like it but both knew we didn't have the title. Plus we'd been dating for many months. Now I feel like I can't really TRUST him! Am I crazy for feeling this way?
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Also, since we've been official I've had 2 other instances in which I felt like - should I believe this guy? one was when i saw red marks on his chest that I didn't put there (he bruises easily - like if I kiss him anywhere around his neck he turns red instantly) and last night I saw a condom packet in his trash bin. I asked him about it and he claimed he had cleaned up his room from the last time I was over (about a month ago) and found it. BUT then he proceeded to find some "trash" and cover it. He was not cleaning up the room before I mentioned it.
WTF!? I am giving him the serious side eye.
He's not a really flirty guy or player type. He appears quite genuine and sweet. He plans really fun dates for us all the time and is very affectionate with me, invites me to hang out with his friends at events, we talk about everything and have a great sex life; so Idk what to think.
Should I bring the party thing up to him and see what excuse he gives me? Should I just watch him and see if he gives me more reason to doubt his trustworthiness? Help!