Should I tell my coworker/friend about my upcoming job interview?
January 18, 2013 3:55 PM Subscribe
I just landed an interview for a job I really want, and I'm very excited about it. I'm seeing a coworker, also a very good friend, for dinner tonight. Should I tell her about it?
posted by eleanor_of_aquitaine to Human Relations (27 answers total)
We became good friends a few years ago and have lunch/dinner or do other fun things together about once or twice a month. We've shared quite a lot with each other, and in the past she has mentioned looking for other jobs. I generally don't share this information with anyone except close friends and family. But she is a close friend at this point, and I worry that if I don't tell her and she finds out, she'll wonder why I kept it from her. She's pretty understanding, but I don't want her to feel betrayed or anything. Plus, I want to talk about it and hear her thoughts and advice.
I should mention the whole "coworker" thing is a bit fuzzy. We used to work together in the same office, but she was moved to a different unit within our company. Now, she works in a different location with different people entirely. But we know a lot of the same people--people I do still work with and wouldn't want to know--and though I trust her, I worry that somehow it would get out (these things do happen, and she's in still in relatively close contact with many of these people).
Should I keep this information to myself, or do you think it's okay if I tell her, as long as I ask that she'd keep it to herself? Would I be opening up a can of worms, or is this really not a big deal? I've been in this situation before, and always kept it to myself, but this time it's a much closer friend.