How did you make intentional community work for you?
January 16, 2013 2:16 PM Subscribe
I'm living in an intentional community similar to the ones described in this link
. It is way harder than I expected. Can you tell me how you made a similar year work for you?
posted by Snarl Furillo to human relations (15 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I am half-way through my volunteer/service year, and it is not at all what I expected. I feel constantly stressed out and all of my stress/panic reactions are in full swing what feels like ALL DAY, EVERY DAY, but especially when dealing with my fellow community members*.
I gave up a decent-ish but not wonderful job to come here and left behind my elderly grandmother, who I was living with and is the light of my life. I felt like this would be a good enough personal and professional opportunity to make the move, but now I feel like I gave up my nice life to be unhappy all the time and get nothing in return. I would really like to quit and go the hell home and forget this ever happened.
But! Apparently EVERYONE wants to quit at some point, or so all the intentional community literature tells me. And apparently most people DON'T quit and afterwards feel that the year was valuable. So if you lived in intentional community and struggled with it but were ultimately happy with your experience, how did that change for you? What resources are there for when you are totally burned out but have to keep going? Are there books I'm not reading? Songs I'm not singing? Something?
*Definitely relevant: I really don't do well in groups