It's not you, it's me - or maybe it is you? I'm not sure.
January 15, 2013 10:51 AM Subscribe
It's been 2 months. You have a great first date with a guy from internet. Chemistry! Romance! Sexual Attraction! Best first date ever. But the female has undesirable qualities. After a few more dates the female confronts the male about his intentions. He then calls her back in a passionate telephone call and says he's willing to have a go. Sadly, he seems to not really be that into her. He then again a few weeks later reiterates his fondness for the female, despite hang ups and she's now rethinking her position.
posted by Danithegirl to Human Relations (28 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm trying to work a situation in my head. A girl and a guy start dating and she is completely different from him in every way, which scares him greatly. To the point that he has to constantly question the validly of the relationship working out. She goes to great lengths to make things easier for him (she's a complication in his simple life) and is still met with criticism and judgement, while still having him tell her how amazing/wonderful/beautiful she is. He's also dropped the "L" word a few times.
So our female decides that this really isn't going anywhere and his hesitation and doubt is frustrating and somewhat insulting. She plans to cut it off. Do it quick and maybe maintain a small friendship. As she's getting the nerve (despite his flakiness, she does like the guy) he reiterates that he is absolutely mad about her and apologizes for the way he's been acting.
What is a girl to do - really? How does one break it off after that. Does she keep going and hope that the initial guy she dated is still in there amongst the self esteem issues, or does she end it, dust herself off and move on. If that is the case (and most likely is), how does she break the news, knowing what an incredibly sensitive guy he is - while avoiding herself getting pissy, because he has been kind of a dick.