Birthday present for a special-snowflake 8-year-old
January 15, 2013 7:02 AM Subscribe
I have a nephew who is coming up on his eighth birthday, and need some help, probably especially from a LBGT viewpoint....
posted by easily confused to Human Relations (26 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
So, the kid is a real sweetheart, fun and funny and great to be around. He loves painting and drawing, messing with his Legos and making clay sculptures, is taking piano lessons, plays with dolls but hates most so-called 'boy' toys like trucks, tries to wear all of his sister's plastic jewelry, but most of all is into his ballet dancing. Please don't take this wrong, since the above almost sounds like a stereotype, but we his family are already pretty sure this kid is (is going to be?) gay. Fine; so what; we don't really care, as long as he grows up healthy and happy, which he is. So far, so good.
My question is, How do we support him? Do we give him the gifts he asks for (example: he's asked for a furry fake-leopard-with-pink-sparkly-trim dance bag that says 'princess' on it for his birthday) even though that risks leaving him open to bullying? Do we split the difference, so to speak, and get him things like a dance bag but make it one of the plain black ones marketed to boys? He'd LOVE a big pile of sparkly plastic jewelry or more doll clothes, but should we just quietly get him things like more Legos instead?
We basically want to make him happy, but not leave him open to harrassment by bigots.