Should I ask this guy out?
January 13, 2013 3:32 PM Subscribe
And is it weird to ask someone out via social website message?
posted by thesnowyslaps to human relations (7 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
So I went out tonight to this social event - well, kind of a social event, it's a "language cafe" type deal. I live in a foreign country, and basically the idea was to get together and speak the local language for the night. Talked with a number of people, but ended up chatting mostly at the end with one of the locals, a really cute guy about my age. I kind of want to ask him out for coffee sometime, but my hangups are
) Is it weird to do this via messaging from the website the activity was listed on? I feel like I should have worked up the nerve to just ask him for his phone number or something in person, and since he didn't ask for mine or anything I dunno if he has any interest at all
2) Ack! What if he says no and then I run into him again at another event?
3) Should I maybe wait to see if I see him at another event and then try to chat him up again in person instead? I am not sure that I will see him again anytime too soon - I am not going to be in town for the next two iterations of this particular activity.
Have you ever met or dated someone from a similar situation? I'm going to admit that I'm pretty inexperienced on this front and am a bit wary of rejection (largely as a result of some hangups from previous unrequited affections situations). Plus, I dunno, is it normal to scope out random people you meet like this? I find myself doing this all the time lately, and it makes me nervous that I come off as kind of creepy. For example, I really just wanted to talk with this guy most of the night and found myself kind of focusing in on him and eventually ignoring the other folk in the room. I tried to be inclusive in the conversation, but somehow it ended up being the two of us. Okay, yes I am a bag of anxiety, but please humor me.