Overcoming shame of virginity in 20's
January 12, 2013 9:41 PM Subscribe
I used to struggle with depression and had a complete lack of confidence. As a result I went through my teen years with such a lack of confidence that I couldn't entertain the notion that any girl would be interested in me despite several making it bluntly clear that they were. Either way I am now 21 and have started getting my life on track. I still struggle with depression but for the most part I am in a much better place with my self confidence and my life overall. The issue I have is that I am a virgin and have literally never even kissed anyone. Obviously I feel great shame over this but I am attempting to not go into a shame spiral as a result.
posted by mrdrummed to human relations (40 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
There is someone that I am interested in. We get along well and it is pretty clear that she is interested in me romantically. I am reluctant to tell the truth but at the same time I am afraid of what would happen when my lack of experience becomes obvious. I am sick of passing on potential relationships because of the shame of my situation. Should I be honest or roll the dice and hope it isn't too embarrassing? Thanks.