We're late to swaddle. After one successful swaddle, our son has decided that now is the week to start rolling over. I'm terrified that he will not be able to wake us if his arms aren't out right himself, but the Moro reflex still wakes him. Help us figure out this Catch-22 of swaddling.
The first week our son was born, we tried swaddling to horrible, disastrous results (this was based on horrible and inaccurate information we got from our stay at the hospital) and had not revisited it until just this week when he's now 3 1/2 months old. Since we weren't swaddling, we started sleeping in this order (at birth): on me (I'd lay on a loveseat propped up with pillows so it was impossible for me to roll over), in a swing, in a rock and play, and now we are attempting to graduate to his crib and sleeping completely flat
The very first night we swaddled, he slept 8 hours, completely undisturbed and hadn't moved, except for his head. Great, right?
The next night, he woke several times because the binky had fallen out and he had crumpled into a ball a few times. After replacing the binky, rocking back to sleep, replacing him the crib again only to wake several more times, we gave up and put him back in his rock and play, swaddled. He slept until we had to go to work.
Every night since after the first successful swaddling has been pretty up and down and ends with him going back in his rock and play until we wake for work. I've tried several combinations of sleep attire underneath the swaddle itself (we're using a Halo sleep sack) in an effort to keep his temperature absolutely perfect. Nothing seems to make a huge difference except for an additional hour or two.
Last night marked a milestone (I think): rolling over. He did not roll all the way over, just on his side. However, this caused him to wake, and subsequent times after replacing the binky he would roll over and wake himself. So now I am conflicted in that it's great that he's rolling over, but we were so late to the swaddling game that I think we've missed our window. He still has trouble with the Moro reflex waking him up, and to top it off, his forehead has been itchy with a mild case of cradle cap.
I want to keep swaddling but various combinations of attire and bedsheets don't really seem to make any difference. Ideally I'd like to get him to repeat the first wonderful 8 hours of sleep swaddling every night. I know there are tons of swaddling options out there, but I am terrified of him rolling over and not being able to alert us before it's too late (yes, we have a baby monitor, but despite its loudest setting, I remain ever vigilant to the point of forced insomnia). Since he has been rolling to his side the past few nights, I have been laying awake just so that I can hear him when he moves. I read this thread
and several others already. I haven't slept very well since the first night of successful swaddling. I'm exhausted. Obviously this can't continue, but I am stuck with how to proceed since the Moro reflex still wakes him. When he is at the babysitter, he lays flat and swaddled in a knitted blanket that I made for him in a pack and play for his naps. He's been ok for these, but it's night time when we really go to battle.
Overall, my son is a very easy baby and very easy to console. Despite this, I dread the night because his sleep is interrupted by things we are doing to him to try to get him to sleep better. Things were so much better when he slept un-swaddled in his rock and play. I know he can't sleep in his rock and play forever, but he seems to prefer it because it's essentially a hammock that cradles him perfectly. The cradled, held-close feeling is lost in his crib. I thought that swaddling would help that but apparently not.
TL; DR: We're late to the swaddling game and my son seems to have started rolling over. Moro reflex still wakes him. How should we proceed moving forward?