Social anxiety FTW
January 10, 2013 6:20 PM Subscribe
I would like to hear about experiences of overcoming social anxiety from people who have a) successfully done so or b) embraced and made a happy life despite it.
posted by kettleoffish to Human Relations (12 answers total) 44 users marked this as a favorite
If you look at my question history, you probably see the experiences of a person with a lot of doubts in social situations-- some borne of inexperience, some of limited and/or poor boundaries. But I am determined to deal with my issues in this new year of 2013 and am seeking tips on how to do so.
This question is complicated by the fact that I am not sure exactly what the reasons for this anxiety are. Going down the personal weird rabbit whole of introspection, I feel that I've always just wanted people to "get along" and part of my anxiety is related to the inability to be aggressive. Sometimes I fear this doesn't really serve me in social situations. Generally, I have very high self esteem and self confidence but sometimes i feel like people perceive me as a "sucker." This is a huge source of anxiety.
At the same time, I feel like part of my anxiety is related to high standards about how to behave in social situations. Perhaps related to the above, I have a hard time "rejecting" people.
Any tips related to the above would be great. Social anxiety is such a complicated issue. Has anyone else had luck understanding it in relation to the desire to be "nice"/"a good person" and/or managed to dial down these issues?
Have been in therapy, didn't find it helpful. YMMV.