Please help me stay asleep before I go insane.
January 8, 2013 12:13 AM Subscribe
I am an incredibly light and difficult sleeper, but only sometimes. Other times I sleep like a rock. This happens regardless of tiredness level. How do I keep from getting into vicious cycles where everything wakes me up?
posted by nakedmolerats to health & fitness (36 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
Right up front I will say: I have no health insurance, so I can't afford to go to a doctor or get a prescription for anything unless I've exhausted all other options.
I write this at 2:30 am; I have to be up for work in five hours. I get up at 7:30 and usually am in bed by 10:30, sometimes I will read or be online until about 11:30. I seem to need a solid 8 hours a night to be rested. My partner works from home and usually gets up around 8 or 8:30, I believe. She usually will come to bed with me and use her laptop for a few hours, and usually put on a TV show to fall asleep to. Sometimes she will get up to use the bathroom or get a snack.
Sometimes I will be incredibly tired, fall asleep around 11, and then get woken up intermittently by EVERYTHING, which seems to turn into a vicious cycle. I wake up and I'm too hot. I wake up if she gets out of bed to do anything. I wake up when she's typing or the screen light bothers me or she puts on the TV show and the noise bothers me. But this only happens SOMETIMES - sometimes I will go straight to sleep and nothing wakes me up. I actually like having the TV show on, usually. I can't really estimate how often this happens, maybe one night out of 8? 10? That I'm a suddenly-light sleeper and then I'm awake for hours. The multiple wakings are such that any sleep I get during that time is not refreshing - if I keep waking up until 2 am, then I feel like I only got 5 hours sleep the next day.
I'm on our couch crying from frustration and STILL AWAKE. It's so frustrating that I don't know which nights it will be so hard to stay asleep. It doesn't seem fair that my partner should have to come to bed and be completely quiet and still in a dark room because I'm so fussy. Is the only option for her to only come to bed when she's ready to sleep? I might wake up anyway when she gets into bed, but at least (hopefully?) that'd only be once instead of multiple times over hours.
Other info: my work sleep schedule is (supposed to be) completely regular, I sleep in a bit on weekends but not insanely, I'm definitely not staying up until 3 am on the weekends such that my body's confused. I don't typically feel like my mind is racing or I'm too tense to get to sleep, UNTIL I start waking up multiple times and get into "oh fuck I have to be at work in 6 hours, 5 hours, 4 hours" mode. It seems like sometimes the sleepless nights come in pairs - I had trouble getting to sleep last night, but not this badly, and now tonight again, even though I'm SO TIRED. I don't drink a ton of caffeine, maybe 3 combined caffeinated drinks total a day, if that. But I drink caffeine even on days where I sleep like a rock.
Why is it only certain nights? What can I do about it? Please help me.