How to handle a guy from texting me gracefully?
January 5, 2013 10:49 AM Subscribe
How do I stop a guy I met at a party from texting me when I already told him upfront I wasn't looking for a relationship? We may end up running into each other again in the future because we met through a meetup event.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Met a guy at a NYE party and we had a good time. However, I was upfront with him that I wasn't looking for a relationship specifically at this point because I'm in graduate school. This semester in particular, I am focused on putting more effort/energy into school. We also live in different locations, and it's about an hour long driving distance. However, he said he was willing to drive to meet me and just have coffee whenever my schedule opened up. Which I was open to that idea. However, since NYE he has texted me 6/7 times and now I am getting annoyed.
Normally I would just ignore or block his number but we met at a "meetup" event and I'm afraid I might meet him in future events. I already made it clear in person verbally before we left the party what my situation was and that I wasn't looking. However, he said we had a beautiful connection and this shouldn't be missed.
Should I just block his phone number? How do I handle this gracefully? I feel like if I respond he will just try to argue that we "can find a time." I thought he was interesting but I don't want to pursue it and I feel like I keep saying the same thing to him that I don't really have the time in graduate school for this. I also don't want to run into a situation where we happen to meet again and things get awkard. Any suggestions? I don't feel like writing out this long text to say again what I said multiple times before we left for that night. He texted me New Year's Day. Then we had a conversation where I said I wasn't really interested and then told him I was busy. Then he texted me two days later and now he just texted me some data file I don't want to open. Help?