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January 4, 2013 10:52 AM Subscribe
Communication expectations in a friendship - what is reasonable to ask of a best friend?
posted by sunshine37 to Human Relations (18 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I've been best friends with someone, we'll call A, for about 8 years. We are both grown adults, with no spouses or children if that matters. We live in different cities and get to see each other about once every month or two. We both enjoy the others company, call each other best friends, can talk about anything, etc. This is not a question about whether A still wants to be friends with me. However, A does not like to talk on the phone (at all, to anyone) so we only talk on the phone maybe once a month. We usually text or email daily. These communications are initiated by both of us. However, A has this annoying habit of sometimes going MIA for days at a time. A will not respond to our usual daily texts or emails for 2-3 days and then only will surface again if I text "Are you okay?" or something along those lines, or something exciting happens in A's life that A wants to tell me about. This makes me feel neglected. A will completely ignore whatever I said in the email or text and want to talk about this new exciting development in A's life. I dislike (1) the ignoring of my texts/emails to talk only about what A wants to talk about and (2) that it sometimes takes 2-3 days for A to respond to a text or email from someone who is A's best friend. Am I being unreasonable? Is this my issue or A's? Advice?