I'd probably get disowned if we went to the courthouse and told them about it later...
January 3, 2013 2:19 AM Subscribe
Weddings for Dummies filter: We got engaged in July and are now slowly realizing that if we want to get married in, say, June we have to, like, do something about that. I want to be *married* but am sort of ambivalent about the wedding itself and am kind of dreading this project. What basic resources (checklists, books, etc.) would help make me feel a little more in control and organized at this point? How do people even begin this process?
Bonus points for great wedding venue suggestions in Anchorage, Alaska.
posted by charmedimsure to Society & Culture (35 answers total) 20 users marked this as a favorite
If it matters: this is probably going to be between 50-150 people, depending on the venue we end up with and who is up for an Alaskan vacation; at least half the guests will be from out of town. Eloping is, tragically, not an option, and budget is not going to be a huge problem. Neither of us is religious, but his family is culturally Jewish and my family is Mormon, and not making our combined families deeply unhappy is a concern. We are both more into the being-married part than the getting-married part, but it is important to our family and friends that they be a part of this somehow. I am hoping for something relatively low-key, but I don't know how to make that happen with, say, 100 people involved, and I am the opposite of the crafty DIY-er that many of the low-key wedding ideas seem to be aimed at.
I don't even know where to start, but it's time to stop quietly flipping out and start taking some concrete steps in the right direction...wherever that is. What do my first 10 steps need to be?