Guy friend being confusing
January 2, 2013 4:17 PM Subscribe
Is my close guy friend into me, confused or just being flirty?
posted by Butterflye1010 to human relations (25 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
So, I've known this guy, Alex, for about two years and we have become pretty close friends. He was a great friend during a breakup about a year ago. We also have a lot of mutual friends and share a lot of similar activities.
I never really thought romantically of Alex, but recently a spark developed and I find myself wanting to be around him a lot more than usual. I'm not sure what brought it on. I've dated some casually since my ex, but nothing serious. During these instances, I could tell Alex would get jealous. He would ask myself and mutual friends about the guys I was dating and sometimes couldn't even be in the same room when I was there. I know that both of us are a little apprehensive to move this to another level, in fear of losing a great friendship, but I figured we were heading in that direction. He even confessed to having feelings for me.
The problem is is that he's a total flirt. He texts girl friends all the time, but he acts differently around me. We're both in our 30's and he's always play fighting with me and teasingly mean to me (which sometimes I feel is a little immature). Last week, he texted and called a lot to hang out and we had a good time... now he's gone cold again.
We haven't done anything physical yet- again, my skepticism, so maybe I just scared him off? I just don't want to get hurt again. My ex was a commitment-phobe and disappeared when things got serious. I don't want to fall for another commitment-phobe. I feel like Alex does have feelings for me and he claims that he wants to settle down, but I just don't know. He's being so confusing. Maybe he just wants what he can't have (or the chase)
I feel like I'm too close in the situation to think clearly. What do you all think? Did I just get played?