what kind of help do i need to ask for at work?
January 2, 2013 5:55 AM Subscribe
Please help me articulate and figure out the help I am looking for, from my boss, at work. General tips on how to ask friends for the help you need (depression/ADD/anxiety related) are welcome.
posted by ArgyleMarionette to Work & Money (2 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
As my posting history suggests I have had a lot of depression issues, and I am still grappling with them. I am in a new work environment with a supportive boss, but I do not know how to ask for help, or what help I am looking for.
I've been losing track of my projects and am really behind. I was hoping to catch up while people were gone for the holidays, but it didn't work. Things went slowly, I got spacey and got nothing done. I am afraid to go into work right now to see her and bring this up, without feeling ashamed, like a disappointment. My immediate supervisor and her boss know I am looking into treatment for depression either partial hospitalization or a different program for people who are emotionally stable/not actively in danger. I brought this up to them a few weeks ago, I think I can get in in a few weeks. Just not sure how to hang on and ask for help to get through the next few weeks. I keep on feeling 'up' enough to get a few tasks done, and i think i am reflexively acting okay because while i am overwhelmed, i don't want the more 'fun ' projects to pass me by because i can't handle more work... so its this weird conundrum where i probably do need help, but i don't need coddling or being made to feel like i am broken or helpless or stupid (long term family issues i think feed into low self esteem and not being confident) so... i want to be independent and strong, but falter at doing the work independently when i actually have opportunity to do my own thing,... uh, so, what are some ideas of the kind of help i can ask my boss for? like i mentioned, she is supportive in that she would give me advance leave to come back and be stronger (she said it herself), but i can also tell exasperated because i seem ok (trying to hold it together so it's not office-wide known im cracking up) and i guess inviting other projects from other groups/being helpful to my own employees because i seem ok, trying tobe as ok as possible, but really am overdue with independent projects i run, and dont know how to tell people that.
really my instinct is to hide at home, and i guess i already need to email in that im coming in late... ugh, sorry for the ramble, i just would feel better if next time she says "im willing to help but need you to tell me how" i have something to say....thanks
I guess it would help to explain that i have a very diverse job that involves communications, outreach, writing, social media, and managing some folks in a completely different field (team lead -- hard to explain but its the minor part of my job)