help me be sexy
December 30, 2012 10:12 AM Subscribe
How do I be seductive?
posted by anonymous to human relations (23 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a female who has never made a physical move on a guy (age: early 30's). I tend to act reserved and stiff when nervous.
So, I have this situation I'd like advice on:
A guy I have been friends with for more than 2 years (we used to be co-workers) is moving back into town tomorrow (was on an extended work leave) and just broke up with his girlfriend. (they had been having problems for awhile).
There's always been a lot of sexual tension between us, I like him a lot, and he seems to be attracted to me. Well, he asked what I was doing for new year's and I invited him out with some friends for dinner. He asked, "what are the plans after dinner? I need to tell my roommate when I will get home because I don't have keys to my new apartment yet" (lol)
So, I just told him he could stay at my place. (which is what I had wanted anyhow).
Um, so, my question? I am really shy, and he isn't particularly shy, but he is several years younger than me (and is not really an alpha-type guy). My concern is that neither of us will make a move. I've never been in a situation like this, honestly.
Can you guys give me some tips on:
-how to relax ( I'm planning to have some wine)
-how to flirt
how to make him comfortable
-how not be awkward
-if there is anything I should keep in mind considering he just ended a relationship (i asked him how he felt, he said "sad and relieved"
note: it doesn't have to be full-on sex, I am fine with moving slowly.